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Cristen and Caroline advise two listeners in need of major spousal support. One husband is willfully incompetent with childcare and another won't let go of his anti-abortion beliefs.  Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Some orgasms are wetter than others — so what? A listener calls us in on the squirting shame she experienced from a previous Unladylike episode. Then, author and host Lux Alptraum brings a refreshing dose of squirting positivity and detaches the pleasure from porn fetishizing and the sexist debate over whether it's "just pee."  Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The sexual revolution will be monetized. In this Patreon bonus episode, Caroline and Cristen explore the concept of "lean-in sexuality," the commodification of climaxing and why sometimes, it's fine to fake it.  Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Until recently, nonconsensual condom removal, aka stealthing, has gone unnamed and unpunished. When then-law student Alexandra Brodsky published a legal paper about stealthing, it went viral and yielded immediate, real-world ripple effects. Brodsky tells us that astonishing story, why stealthing struck a chord and how changing laws can help change consent culture. Alexandra Brodsky is a civil rights attorney and the author of the new book Sexual Justice: Supporting Victims, Ensuring Due Process, and Resisting the Conservative Backlash. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Cristen and Caroline advise a mom worried that divorce will ruin her daughter and a teacher unsure how to address dress codes with her students. Then, it's time for a fashionable game!  Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hormonal birth control is the most commonly prescribed contraception, but what about the side effects? Nurse practitioner Jennifer Robinson helps us weigh the hormonal — and nonhormonal — options. Plus, author Elinor Cleghorn shares the shocking history of The Pill and how it relates to birth control side effects today. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How do you solve a problem like environmental injustice? Meet two forces of nature and intergenerational allies — trailblazer Vernice Miller-Travis and Intersectional Environmentalist founder Leah Thomas — on a mission to connect the dots between environmentalism, anti-racism and feminism. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When Kyra Condie says climbing is for everyone, she’s not exaggerating. It's a rare sport where young girls can hold their own against ripped CrossFit bros — even if they have severe scoliosis like Kyra. This episode, we find out how she scaled her way to the Olympics and what it's taken to beat the odds and reach the top. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What's the best way to navigate life's major money pits? Our very own financial planner Helen Ngo lends her expert advice on budgeting, spending guilt, ethical investing and more.  Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

You can't swing a vision board around social media without hitting influencers, life coaches, and boss babes galore selling manifesting and positive vibes as the secret to wealth and happiness. Cristen and Caroline investigate the growing business of manifesting, why it's so attractive to women, and the psychological powers—and pitfalls—of positive thinking. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Why are cult vibes so strong right now? Don't blame brainwashing. Linguist Amanda Montell breaks down what cult-speak sounds like, how it seduces us and why it's everywhere these days. Her new book is Cultish: The Language of Fanaticism.  Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Cookbook author Julia Turshen thinks of her recipe collections as Trojan horses to talk about far more than food, and she's right. We mix it up with Julia about her childhood cookbook obsession, recipe writing, and why cookbooks deserve more respect. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How do you mend emotionally fraught friendships? Cristen and Caroline offer advice - and some tough love - to two unladies in the thick of friendship conflicts. Then, it's onto a rapid fire round of questions about boob jobs, bosses, catcallers and more!  Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Why did it take 13 years for Britney Spears to speak out against her conservatorship? Tess Barker and Babs Gray share how they galvanized #FreeBritney into a disability right movement. Then, ACLU lawyer Zoe Brennan-Krohn takes us deeper into the ableist origins of guardianship, why it's so hard to get out of one, and how Britney's case could affect the system at large. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What do antivax memes, abortion myths and canceling Father's Day have in common? They're all lies amplified through fake online accounts impersonating Black women. Digital activist Bridget Todd sheds important light about how this kind of racist, sexist disinformation works, its offline impacts and what tech platforms have — and haven't — done to stop it.  Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Feeling burnt out? Journalist Anne Helen Petersen breaks down where our collective exhaustion comes from, how modern workplaces fuel it, and why "self-care" isn't the antidote. She also shares her own burnout bottoming out that inspired her book, Can't Even: How Millennials Became the Burnout Generation. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Cristen and Caroline advise a mom who's scared of giving her daughter body issues and a daughter who wants to help her mom become body positive. Then, it's on to a delightfully cringe new segment, Terrible Advice.  Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Why do we pretend women don't lose their hair? In the final episode of our series all about head hair, we wig out with Supriya Surender who began living more fully after alopecia areata left her fully bald. Then, hairstylist Dorin Azerad demystifies trichotillomania — her deepest, darkest secret growing up.  Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What does your hair color say about you? In part two of our series all about head hair, we find out how writer Jessica Berger Gross broke up with dyeing and fell in love with her grays. Then, software engineer Jameson Hampton highlights how rainbow-bright hair helped them navigate gender identity and queerness. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When twin sisters Mya and Deanna Cook wore braided extensions to school, they had no idea it would start a fight for their civil rights. In part one of our series all about head hair, we untangle Black hair discrimination and the CROWN Act movement to end it. Plus, listener Tara Nelson takes us on her natural hair journey and why it was about so much more than just hair.  Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at unladylike.co/newsletter.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.